“My mother was the most beautiful woman I ever saw. All I am I owe to my mother. I attribute my success in life to the moral, intellectual, and physical education I received from her.”
Mother’s Day always makes me cry.
I can’t help it.
I miss my mother.
We lost her to a car accident in 2004.
During the Holidays…ANY holiday, I feel the loss quite keenly.
…at times that loss is so strongly I just can’t breathe.
That’s just an inkling of the impact a mother can have on the life of her child.
Which got me thinking.
What were the things that made my mother special, to me?
Was it her love and nurturing affection?
Was it her smile or the attention she gave me?
Was it the professional toilet papering techniques she taught me,…or perhaps the important skills of shadow-skipping to avoid the police on the way home after the job had been successful?
Maybe it was the lullabies she sang to me growing up?
Those chocolate chips she put in the smiley pancakes?
…or how she won every race to school against teens in sports cars with our Ford LTD Station Wagon?
Though eating chocolate-eyed pancakes while racing at 90mpg was pretty fun.
It wasn’t anything she did that made mom ‘special’.
It was who she was that made all the difference.
It’s Not Just MY Mother Who’s Special
My children are equally blessed.
Kathilynn is the most wonderful woman I’ve ever known.
What’s amazing, is that I see the same character traits in the love of my life as I did in my own mother.
And while other people seem to bash on or tease their In-Laws, I’ve been blessed yet again with a mother-in-law who doesn’t fit the norm.
She’s amazing, kind, wonderful and the fact is, I adore her.
I don’t consider her my mother-in-LAW.
She’s my mom.
…and I love her with all my heart, because of who she is.
My mother’s character.
THAT’S when I realized a common thread among the mothers that I knew, both friends and family.
People I work with, people I entertain.
…and I think a good portion of the world has missed it.
Either by accident, neglect or ignorance, we have not expressed the thanks we should, nor acknowledged the true value that we have all around us.
…and I’d like to get your help to change that.
Let’s Start A Movement of Appreciation!
Starting this year, I’d like to create a movement called ‘Praise It Forward’.
You know the term PAY It Forward, but I’d like to encourage ‘praising’ those we love.
A simple act, sharing the things we notice about the most important people in our lives.
So today, I’d like to share with you 5 Insanely Powerful Secrets You Need To Tell Your Mom and encourage you to look into your own heart… make your own list…
Make your own list.
Then share that list with your mother.
Don’t hold back.
The last memory I have of my mother was a horrible argument we had before she left on her trip.
I thought of all the ways I was going to make it up to her.
To apologize for my behavior.
…and I never got that chance.
#1 Success Is Knowing Your Mother Is PROUD Of You
The world isn’t kind and it’s harder no than when I was a child.
I battle every day to reinvent myself and become the person the person I believe you wanted me to be.
Loving, patient, kind, forgiving, hard working, compassionate and determined to make this world a better place.
But I’ve learned that life doesn’t often work out in my favor.
I’m not where I thought I would be.
Many hopes and dreams unrealized.Yet my heart tells me you would be proud of me.Click To TweetThat you would see what I have become instead of what I have achieved or amassed.
Were you here, I know you’d put your arms around me and whisper secrets in my ear.
Reminding me of where I was, so long ago…and how far I’ve come.
That I’ve never been behind, but that I’ve always made it.
That if I’m of service to others, I’ve already succeeded in what truly matters.
#2 I Can Do The Impossible When YOU Believe In Me
How is it that you can see the invisible?
Able to look inside my heart and tell me what the future holds.
Not because you knew the future, but because you knew my character—the very nature you shaped and molded—in such a way, you knew the choices I’d make before I was presented with the options.
The confidence you showed, never faltering, instilled a belief in me that I had potential.
That I could make a difference in the world around me, mom.
If that’s not a superpower, I don’t know what is.
When countless people told me I couldn’t draw, couldn’t write, you told me not to listen.
“People don’t see the world as it is, but as they are,” you’d remind me, “and oftentimes they can’t see past their own pain, problems, and traditions.”
“Is there anything I can do?” I’d ask.
You always smiled and with a hug, would reply, “Show them there’s more to a person than what they can see.”
So I did.
Again and again and again.
#3 The World Will Always Contain Joy When You’re IN It
When you died, mom, I was hurt.
You…were part of every future I had plans for.
Not just me, but Kathi and the children too.
Any future we could imagine.
That part of my heart died with you that day, leaving a hole which cannot be filled.
…because you OWN that part of my heart.
Then something miraculous happened.
When I thought about you, your life ignited my heart and mind.
…and for a moment, the world grew brighter!
Every memory I have, which we crafted together, holds in it, a seed of happiness and joy.
Though I wish you were here, I can call on that joy at any time, anywhere, in an instant.
A gift you gave me…which took the deepest suffering to discover.
I didn’t understand fully when you told me to be mindful of Kathilynn, to be sensitive to her heart.
But I believe I do now.
She has the same power, the same breathtaking influence on my world and the world of our children, mom.
She’s amazing and I never knew I could love so much, so strong and so deep.
…and the world contains joy because she’s in it.
#4 Trust Me, Mom, Your Kisses ALWAYS Make Things Better
When I was little and got hurt, usually doing something foolish, you came to the rescue.
With a smile and a kiss, my pain and ‘boo-boos’ faded away.
The sun would shine and all would be well once again.
As I grew older, those ‘boo-boos’ became actual wounds.
You know the times I speak of.
Yet in those darker moments, I found a place in your arms.
A place where my fears would melt.
A place where I could breathe.
Where truth held the ground and mercy was ever-present, watching over me.
…and your kiss upon my cheek or forehead became, once more, the magic of days long past.
In an instant, you granted me strength, comfort…and my heart was always able to heal.
#5 Thank You For Being The Voice In My Mind
Of all the gifts I’ve received from you, mom, there’s one that stands out above all.
When I’m alone.
When I’m confused.
When I’m bubbling with rage.
…or trying to find the path because of a stupid choice I’ve made…
I hear you.
Your kind, loving, encouraging voice, guiding me to make a good choice.
To have mercy.
To have compassion.
To be MORE.
And for that, mother, I will always be grateful.
Now Go Call Your Mother
Don’t wait to call your mother.
Do it now.
Tell her you love her.
Tell her THANK YOU for all she’s done, for all she’s been to you.
She’s not perfect.
Neither are you.
That’s not the point.
Trust me when I say, you never know how much time you have and when you least expect it…
She’ll be gone.