So you’ve stumbled into adulting, and we know, it’s not what you thought it was going to be.
Being an adult is not nearly as carefree as I thought when I was a young kid either. I had always thought growing up was going to be this easy going ride.
I figured I’d be given a book like “Adulting: How to become a grownup” once I had hit that “adult age”. The only thing close to that was a post I read that had a couple hundred people saying “Go back, adulting is a trap”.
After that, I scoured the internet looking for ideas on how to adult, and I could only find complaints and negative experiences.
So here are some completely awesome parts to being an adult that you should totally take advantage of. These are some of the biggest things on my list of why being an adult is actually the best.
1. Picking Your Own Social Circle
This. Everything this. Part of being an adult is choosing who you spend your time with. You have control over people coming over, who you go out with, etc. and it’s awesome.
As an adult, you’re able to trim the social circle according to your wants. There are few things that are as satisfying as being able to remove unhappy or poisonous relationships, as well as spending time with and nurturing the ones that mean the most to you.
Remember that with great power comes great responsibility. No one is going to set up play dates or sleepovers for you. If you don’t nurture relationships the by-product is that they fade away. It’s often worth your time to place a phone call, or a short visit to keep some of those relationships alive.
2. Pants Are Optional
Now before you go and grace the public (and possibly a holding cell) with your new found ‘freedom’, let me give you a word of advice: wear pants in public. Other than that? You choose. Now before you say “I have a dress code at work” or “I have to wear a suit when meeting with clients” remember, you get to choose those jobs. Want to work without pants? There are plenty of ways to make money online.
The most awesome thing here isn’t just that pants are optional, but what kind you wear. When I see someone in public wearing pajama pants I don’t judge them, I judge myself. Why didn’t I wear pajama pants? Am I stupid?
3. You Are Responsible For Yourself
While this is often referred to as a double-edged sword, I believe this to be the best thing about adulting. Being responsible for yourself means you get to do what you want but you also get the natural consequences of those choices. Do you take extra care of your car? It’s going to run smoother and last longer. Don’t choose to shower? People are not going to want to hang around you.
This, in a nutshell, is what freedom is. And it is beautiful.
It means if I want to sit and binge watch Daredevil and Jessica Jones on Netflix for an ungodly amount of time, I can totally do that. All I have to do is realize that when Monday rolls around I’ll have to deal with the fact that I didn’t work on anything I said I would that weekend, and I have to get it done now.
Being an adult turns out to be actually pretty awesome, just not for the reasons I had thought when I was younger.