I don’t like the way the world works.
My desire is to change that, by helping the people in it. I’d like to show them a better way than this arms-length, emotional vomit society we’ve settled for. It’s not something I want my kids to grow up in nor do I want to leave them this sham of a world as an inheritance.
It’s important you know this up front before we get to know each other. That way you can choose to walk away before anyone gets hurt or disappointed.
Just be warned. If you stay, we will most assuredly become friends. It’s just a fact, because I’m a likable guy, and…well if you stick around it means you’re both smart and a person with good taste, so why wouldn’t I like you in return?
…but people often call me a catalyst for good.
When looking around at our world I see so much potential being walled up, abused, abandoned or ignored. So I do what any sensible person would—and find ways to put it back into motion…through people.
This can be done through a conversation, an article or book published, maybe an introduction, perhaps closing the gap between a parent and child, or my favorite—showing possibilities.
No matter what method I use, it always comes back to relationships.
Relationships are the most important aspect of life.
Not money. Not fame. Not power.
People are what’s important.
People are what I’m focused on, passionate about, and emotionally invested in.
You’re a Millennial. Maybe you’re a parent.
Either way, you found yourself here and you’re probably asking yourself, “Who the hell is this guy and why should I care what he has to say?”
My answer would be, “From Adulting to Parenting, I’m the guy who’ll get you through the BS of life, cupcake.”
A bit cocky perhaps. Bold, blunt and unconventional? Without a doubt.
I’m not your ordinary blogger.
No, I’m not a fellow Millennial, but I do have qualifications that are hard to compete with.
My Qualifications (other than being a ‘cool’ dad)
I have 12 kids.
Those are children not goats, BTW, and they’re all organic. No twins, no adoptions and no mini-monsters rented or on loan.
As of 2017 my oldest is 25, my youngest is 2. I play with my grandkids and youngest son at the same time. I still talk about shapes, colors, the meaning of life, the birds and bees and provide marriage and parenting advice through example and precept.
Oh, and I still change diapers, so I guess you could say ‘I know crap’.
That alone should have your attention, but it’s really only the beginning.
You see, youth and family are the centers of my world—and though I’m an oddball, unconventional thinker and a grandfather with a Peter Pan complex, I’ve also taught other people’s children for over twenty years. Specifically ages 12 through 15 upon topics which revolve around life and how to think for themselves.
These classes are always full of eager youth because I follow five simple rules:
– Always be blunt, open and honest;
– Remember they’re smarter than you think they are;
– Lessons are only a catalyst to unlock their questions (the REAL subjects to address);
– Whenever possible, use personal experiences to show real life application, and;
– Always teach the “why”.
They’re shocked when I tell them (as an adult) that I don’t know it all or have all the answers, but that we can find them together. That level of honesty wins the class as a whole, and in the end, I get along famously with all but the most unruly and rude of youth.
These are the same rules I follow when working on this website, my books, games or any other project I undertake. It allows me to be unapologetically myself and to provide you with the very best material & help I know how to give.
Trust me, there are days when I wake up, drag my fat butt to the bathroom and look into the mirror with a hint of disdain.
“What the hell are you doing this for, Jaime? Nobody gives a damn anymore,” I tell myself, but you know what? No sooner do I whine like a snowflake who didn’t get their presidential candidate elected, I get an email, a phone call or have someone approach me on the street.
“Thank you for giving me a new perspective.”
“Your book has helped me communicate better with my teen.”
“I never knew I had so much in common with my parents!”
“When I lost my friend to suicide, everyone lied to me about how to cope except you. Thank you so much.”
…and I’m reminded why God has allowed me to fall on my face so many times over my lifetime. Why I have been hurt, betrayed, robbed, beaten, mocked, buried close family and friends, left to my own design up to the moment of absolute despair or drowning in the deepest depression.
It was so I could show you a way through it all.
Look, I’m no hero and I’m certainly no saint. I’m a guy who had a vacation home in hell and was blessed to meet an amazing girl. Someone so incredible that he wanted a different life.
A better life.
This young woman looked inside me and saw something I couldn’t see in myself. She chose to love me for who I could become.
Who I would become.
(That’s the awesome thing about women—being able to see possibilities…)
So I started working on it.
That was in 1990. 12 children, 9 grandkids and 11 houses ago.
My experiences in life are numerous and varied. I’ve washed toilets and flipped hamburgers, been a bodyguard and public speaker, made a six-figure income and ended up homeless with my wife, 11 children, and a father-in-law to care for.
Along the way I also made a living making comic books, selling PDF copies online before the Kindle was invented & self-publishing graphic novels before there was a Createspace. Along with that I designed games, started Chronicles of a Hero—a fantasy novel series and illustrated children’s books…all to entertain the Millennial generation.
The generation of my own children. That’s how this all started.
I didn’t like the world I lived then any more than I like it today, so I set out to change it.
…and the only way you can do that is to change the people.
Not my force or manipulation, but by trying to be an example yourself and showing them a better way.
To let them choose.
That was my desire all those years ago and nothings changed.
What You Can Expect From Me and This Site
This website is split into two main categories: Adulting & Parenting.
I figure between those two lay the whole of life as a family and most of the experiences you’re going to have as a grown up, so that’s what I focus on.
Everything you’ll find here is real life, doable, tested information that you can put to practice the moment you read it. Updated on a quarterly basis, so it’s fresh and helpful to anyone who shows up.
It’s also 100% bias and unapologetically me.
What I do is provide you with my own knowledge and my own experiences…along with full explanations why I think and believe the way I do. Then it’s your job to accept it or not—it’s completely up to you. This includes a wide variety of subject matter, but it all comes back to Adulting and Parenting.
To get the most of this website and materials, you need to do two things:
A) Sign up to my mailing list, even if you don’t usually check your emails. You know it’s expected, so just get it over with. I give the best specials to my list and I don’t bug you, so you have nothing to lose by signing up.
B) Accept ‘push notifications’ from this site. This will provide real time updates to your smart phone or desktop.
*NOTE: If you already rejected the push notifications, clear the cookies on your device and the next time you visit, the site will offer the option again.
Next thing you should know is nothing on this site is free.
I know, I know, you’re expecting all sorts of promises and deals, yadda, yadda, yadda.
Here’s the thing: Nothing is “free” anymore, at least not on the internet. Sure, you can get something free from family, maybe friends or through your church, but online ‘FREE’ only means, ‘I’ll give you something now so I can get something from you later’, or ‘I’ll give you something you’ve already paid for, you just don’t know it.’
What a load of crap.
So I’ll be Frank here (or Sally if you prefer)—this is a business, not a charity. I want to help as many people as I possibly can, but I also have to pay my bills and feed my family. So if I can help solve your problems, isn’t it worth a few bucks so I can take care of my own family?
That’s a rhetorical question.
Here’s how we make money here:
A) Our materials are affordable to everyone. We designed it this way by using a ‘pay what you can’ for many of the items we sell. If you can afford a cup of coffee, then pay that. If you can afford more, we’d be grateful. If you can’t afford the materials but need them, then take them. Come back and donate later. This is a win-win.
B) Donations can be made on our podcast pages. Again, if you can throw a dollar or two our way when we provide something that helps you, it allows us to cover our overhead and provide even more.
C) Affiliate links are going to be inserted over time. We chose this option because it doesn’t cost you a penny and if you’re going to buy a shirt, movie or lawnmower anyway, why not make a few cents per sale. It’ll add up over time and help us with our hosting costs.
D) Wanted Hero books have been the main source of supporting this website for the past couple years. Those who love a good fantasy might want to check out WantedHero.com and purchase a book or five. All the profits are used to sustain both websites, the programs we use and once in a while a burger or two for Evan and me.
Well, that’s about it.
Spending time with me has an addictive effect on 96.4% of the human population.
Rumors say I also have a positive effect on 18.2% of the non-human population.
I think it’s my smile.
Take a look around.
Stay a while.
Reach out and introduce yourself.
Most importantly, make sure you join my mailing list and turn push notifications on to get my personal stories & experiences.
Trust me, you won’t regret it.
Interactions and Media
I do have a life beyond this website and among popular bloggers, I’m known as the Comment King (have a habit of starting commenting parties on blog posts). It’s been my personal experience that interacting with dynamic personalities adds value to your projects and entertains your audience.
I’m available for interviews, guest posts and even do full product reviews if you have something that’s a good fit for an Adulting or Parenting audience.
Just drop me a message through my contact page and we can talk.
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